Overcoming Commitment Phobia Issues
One of the biggest issues for men is committing themselves to one women in their life for the rest of their days but many have a phobia about this so here’s some help to overcome those issues.
Fear of commitment and being afraid to go from being single to a long term relationship is fraught with commitment phobia issues and many people are scared of the long term dedication to just one person for the rest of their lives so here’s some advice in managing this especially if you have an upcoming marriage.
The issues of commitment
Underlying fear of getting things wrong and making poor decisions that may take years to reverse and have financial consequences could all be issues that lead to fear of commitment and commitment phobia both in men and women. For the most part we are happy with our lives although we have met a partner we believe we want to be with forever. When thinking about this change we all have anxieties for asking ourselves is this really the best decision we can make or if there is something better out there (ie: the grass is greener syndrome). For women it could be the lack of emotional support in a relationship that they need and are looking for someone to help them with that.
The background of intimacy
Most women want intimacy in a relationship but often put down men as a commitment phobic just because that’s what they have learned from television or other media outlets. They want a long lasting relationship with love and sharing of their lives but are just afraid that their man just won’t be want they are looking for and will have to change his personality – in fact a girlfriend of mine used to say “men don’t come ready trained” and want the perfect person that is in their mind.
The man phobic
Like all men committing for the rest of your life is a big step from being single and being able to go out with the lads for a beer or watch the game at any opportunity. You don’t want to end all of this and your apartment is without all women’s beauty products everywhere. In a way you don’t want to share your life but you do want to have the woman you love to be in your life.
A committed relationship
All statistics ever published state that people are more happy in a long term relationship and in fact live much, much longer if their are married. If the relationship brings children then the family life can be wonderful.
Adjusting for the commitment phobia person
As with anything in life being with someone is a big change that although not forced upon you might be something that is moving along at a faster pace than you would like and no one likes forced change as we all want to be in charge of our lives.
Going from being single to a long term committed relationship is a big step forward and it’s not something that you can just let be as you will have to work at it but this change may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you. Although my mother used to say “if you have any concerns at all, don’t do it”
Issues resolved ?
So if you are in this area where you are just not sure what can you do? Well you really have to ask yourself – imagine yourself with this person in say 10 years time – will you still be happy. Ask yourself about the reasons you are attempting to make this commitment and do it for the right reasons not for example that you are young and see all your friends getting married and think you may be left on the shelf. Life has a habit of making things just right in the end and it’s only you who can decide if this is the right decision for you and if commitment phobia are really the issues you are dealing with here.
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