How Do I Ask My Girlfriend to Marry Me ?
So you have a lasting relationship and it’s time to “pop the question” and ask your girlfriend to marry you – but how do you go about this and overcome nerves and hopefully get the right answer? We show you how….
If you are ready for marriage then this guide will hopefully give you some suggestions.
Table of contents. 1) Your relationship so far 2) Have you discussed marriage at all yet? 3) The engagement ring 4) The proposal to marry and 5) The words to say
Background to your relationship
Without knowing who you are you should think about all the good times in your relationship so far. How long have you been dating, are you compatible and like the same things, do you get on with her relatives and friends and is your financial situation sound? All boring things to answer but if you are going to ask your girl friend to marry you then in theory this is the rest of your life you are planning together now.
Have you discussed it at all?
Or is it going to be a big surprise? If you haven’t talked to her about it at all then how about asking one of her close friends about how she feels about you or even her father? So long as they won’t tell your girlfriend what you are thinking then this is a good sounding board.
Of course you can bring this into a conversation such as “wouldn’t it be good to grow old together” or if you aren’t living together yet “I wonder what type of house you’ll have in 5 years time?” – You know though that women read into everything you say so if you are ready for any type of commitment saying anything is likely to lead you onto other things.
For me I let my now wife choose her own engagement ring as I really didn’t want to get the wrong item. The ring will be with her forever so I felt it was right that she chose hers. After I proposed we went shopping for a ring together which was wonderful and she chose exactly what she wanted.
This is the tricky part. You will need to be very romantic so why not take her to a special place that both of you love. In can be indoors or outdoors but plan ahead where you will be and not just be a rushed moment.
You don’t necessarily need any tokens of love at this point as it’s the words you say and how you say it that will be enough for both of you. I proposed on one knee in our favorite hotel when no one else was there. We had finished our dinner and went into the lounge by a big open fire and settled down with our after dinner drinks and then I got up, got down on one knee and said “would you do the honor of being my wife”
Of course she said “are you joking” - sigh – and we had spoken about getting married before so it shouldn’t have been too much of a shock. Afterwards we ordered a bottle of champayne and telephoned everyone we knew.
Do you not need to say much so long as it comes from the heart and you come across romantically and that you really mean it. This is a long term commitment and not something to be rushed into, and you are asking her to marry you so it’s not a right or anything but a request. She can say no but you will already have an idea of if she is going to say yet. Millions get married every year so don’t be nervous just go and do it!
However, as soon as you go down on one knee your girlfriend is going to know exactly what’s coming so just prepare a few short words and when she says “yes” she will now officially be your financee and now all you need do is set a date for the wedding and save hard !
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